Is Couples Counselling something that can help you?
Is your relationship or marriage being damaged by conflict and arguments?
Are you feeling “stuck” and finding it difficult to see a way through?
Has there been a breach of trust or infidelity?
Is your parenting role affecting your relationship?
Are you facing challenges with your blended family?
Has your sex life diminished and/or become difficult to address?
Are there other problems that are disconnecting you from your partner?
Are you struggling with decisions relating to separation, divorce or ending your relationship
Making time to consciously look at the difficulties that you are experiencing in your relationship is extremely important. Couples will benefit from attending counselling because the time is used to focus entirely on your relationship, exploring the external and internal pressures facing you as well as providing a neutral ground to open up communication and relate in a different way.. I understand that for many couples, taking the step into counselling can make you feel vulnerable and exposed. At ThoughtMatters, my aim is to create a safe, relaxed and non-judgemental space where problems, concerns, fears, worries and all sorts of other experiences can be explored and resolved, leading to a richer and more satisfying relationship.
How Can You Benefit from Couples Counselling? Couples Counselling can help you to:
get clear about the real problems or issues and your individual roles within that
identify your expectations of each other and of the relationship
gain insight into the family system and the patterns that affect your relationship
explore how each individual is able to respond differently and contribute to the solutions
openly discuss experiences that have been silenced by fear, worry or shame
discuss important decisions that may need to be made about or within the relationship
increase skills in identifying and satisfying your own needs within the relationship
How Does Couples Counselling Work? Typically, you would come in as a couple for at least the first session, however, there is the option to have an individual session each, either to begin, or at some point in the therapy process. We can discuss this over the phone, beforehand, if you are unsure which is best for you. Couples therapy is more effective in 80 minute sessions, allowing both people adequate time to share and hear.
During the sessions, I am not there to make judgements about who is right or wrong or persuade you to take a particular course of action. Instead, questions will be asked that enable you to make discoveries about yourselves, your lives and your relationship. You will learn skills to be able to improve your communication and appreciation of each other and this work will create a foundation upon which you can re-build your relationship, whatever ways you choose.
If there is one partner who is resisting couples therapy, individual therapy can still provide strategies and clarity that profoundly impact and improve the relationship.
Contact Me now to find out more about how couple and relationship counselling can support you.